Most people fly off the handle about something.
The odd thing is, many of them have no idea why they are reacting the way they do. They may be aware that loud noises make them crazy or that the smell of aftershave sends them into a tailspin- but they don't know why.
It's important to know what makes you tick. We want to know what makes our S.O. act the way they do. Every mother claims to desire access to the recesses of her own childrens' brains. Shouldn't we be willing to have a peek into our own psyche to see who and what is driving?
I had a great conversation with one of my good friends the other day. She mentioned one of her "off the handle" moments and I had to ask... "do you know why?"
She's so smart- of course she did. I recognized her acute self-awareness and asked if she'd tell me some of her story.
It was profound. Sadly it was all too common; but unique. As much as I love my friend, as well as I thought I knew her- I know her better now. When you're willing to listen to someone else's story you are showing love. When you get to know someone, you are entering their story- sharing it, becoming a part of it in a special way.
And when you share your story- you are demonstrating not only love, but trust. When you tell- you grow. When you bring things out into the light you are removing darkness, dulling the ache, soothing the sting. Sometimes you even learn how to heal yourself.
Wouldn't it be nice to fly off the handle a little less often? Or at least, when you do-
to be able to know why?